How do you overcome lack of self-confidence?

Self confidence comes with competence in some chosen field or subject area, and this is amplified when applied in the service of others (meaning when you are value to others in some real way).

What are you good at?

May be you are a nurse, a teacher, an accountant or a doctor. Whatever you are, look at who you help and what impact you have on others.

Knowing that will start making you feel good about yourself (dont compare yourself with others though - that’s a mistake).

And finally, GIVE. Your time, resources or even a bag of meal next time you shop at the grocery store.

It will build a sense of confidence and self-esteem, you can’t miss it.

Agree?

What #strategies have you applied to get better with your #communicationskills ?

While I dont believe I’ve fully “mastered” the art of communication (by that I mean, not just the spoken & written aspects), I do believe I’m constantly getting better, learning something new, from industry peers and those I follow and interact (kids and animals included).

I’d summarize my top 5 strategies as follows:

1) Listen more, but, where possible, be the last one to speak (Nelson Mandela tip)

If you listen empathically to another human being, they will almost certainly be compelled to listen to you in return.

2) Suspend #judgement in any conversation (this one’s hard)

3) Speak not because you have to say “something”, but rather, you have something to “say” that adds value or helps or clarifies a topic

4) #ASK more when you speak (this one is critically important, this alone scores bonus points over the other points above - by doing this, you make it about “them” and not so much about you)

5) And last, but not the least, practice #empathy, being a bit more empathetic in your written as well as spoken conversations.

So what strategies have you applied at work and in your personal life that has helped you?

Comment below.

Leadership lessons taught by the Mighty Barbell Bar

“ Leadership lessons & a Barbell Bar? "

What could a piece of metal teach you about leadership? As it turns out, quite a few.

It teaches you to be a Servant first. You quickly learn, if you think "serving is beneath you, then leadership is beyond you" 

It teaches you to build comfort around being uncomfortable. You know, the feeling of something cold, hard, rusty rough surface which rips your skin off, leaves you with calluses, coarse swollen palm each time Now compare that with having to LOVE those under your care. Even if you dont LIKE them

It teaches you to use your fear as a COUNSELOR: You know the bar is unforgiving & leave your palm bleeding & numb for days. 

But you know you've GOT TO ignore that fear and move that weight on the sides of the bar to grow (either by pulling it upwards or holding on to the bar while YOURSELF up) Now, imagine the weights as those under your care - you have been put in-charge of their development, which impacts the organization (your employees & customers by extension) 

So, is your leadership BAR tested?